A self-effacing end is one that can’t be achieved by aiming directly at it.
- Happiness. The happiest people seem to be those who are focused on other things—relationships, meaningful work, etc. They don’t seem to be aiming directly at happiness as an end in itself.
- Prestige. If you focus directly on earning prestige, you will likely be seen as manipulative or self-absorbed. The most prestigious people tend to become so through achievements or genuine good qualities.
Nguyen, C. Thi. Games: Agency as Art (p. 54). Oxford University Press. Kindle Edition.